What to do when your partner fills the relationship with drama

Are you constantly worrying over where your partner is at 10 p.m. at night?

Does he or she continue to grapple with drug or alcohol problems despite the fact they've pledged time and time again to quit and seek treatment?

Have they done something to suggest they're not capable of being trusted, like cheating on or stealing from you?

Do they constantly pick fights for no apparent reason?

If this sounds like your relationship -- one with the flair for the dramatic -- then something isn't right.

A romantic relationship shouldn't keep you on edge all of the time. You should not have to fear your partner's next move given their penchant for chaos and unpredictability.

Now, no one's perfect, of course. We all make mistakes. We all let the other person down from time to time.

But it certainly should not be an everyday occurrence.

In fact, a partner is the one we often go to for comfort; they, of all people, bring a sense of stability to our lives (at least the right one).

But someone who keeps you on edge is likely doing a number on your mental, physical, and/or emotional health, which isn't fair to you.

If, after having an honest, open conversation, they still refuse to take steps toward rectifying those wrongs, you have to ask yourself how much longer you're willing to wait and put up with this behavior.

The fact of the matter is that some people never change, and sitting around waiting for them to change may prove a complete waste of time.

Because no matter how intensely you love this person or how long you've known them, it doesn't merit an endless supply of free passes.

They either own up to their mistakes and make the effort to change their ways (which would indicate they sincerely care about salvaging the relationship), or they can amble away toward the sunset.

Never enable another person's bad behavior, as they will only continue to do it.

Life's too darn short for a drama-ridden relationship. Rest assured that if you decide to end it, you will find someone better in the near future.

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