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3 can't-miss tips for handling rejection

We've all been there: We tell someone we're drawn to them romantically, but it turns out they don't feel the same way.

If someone isn't interested in a relationship with you, it can be pretty upsetting, especially if you've imagined hooking up with them for quite some time.

Once you know the feelings aren't mutual, what should you do?

Below are a couple of suggestions for dealing with rejection. (Note that many of these tips also work in the event that someone breaks up with you.)

1. Don't beg for another chance. If they've told or shown you they're not interested -- whether it's because they are taken, wish to remain single, or see you only as a friend, the worst thing you can do is press the issue further.

This can be viewed as stalking or harassment, and the last thing you want is to ruffle the feathers of his or her partner, family or friends -- let alone get in trouble with the law.

2. Don't mope around at home or elsewhere. Though it's understandable that you may need some time to "grieve" a relationship that never came to be, sooner or later you'll have to move on with your life.

Pining over someone constantly could very well make you anxious and/or depressed, possibly causing you problems at work and straining your social life.

You need to keep yourself occupied. Enjoy your hobbies or take up some new ones. Hang out with friends. Do whatever possible to keep your mind focused on the present and resist the stubborn urge to harp on the past.

3. Don't expect that they will come around. Many people who find themselves in this situation may opt to put their love life on hold, driven by a persistent feeling that the other person will realize what they're missing out on and come waltzing back.

This is never a guarantee, especially if they're already in a relationship or have their eye on someone else. Chances are, you may never see them again.

That being said, don't close yourself off to opportunities to meet other men or women. You could be missing out on someone wonderful if you remain fixated on an individual who may have forgotten you exist.

Rejection can be tough, but it shouldn't dampen your enthusiasm for the things and people that bring you joy.

Rest assured that things happen for a reason, and someone better lies in your future.
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