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When someone isn't interested in you

Have you ever been turned down by someone you really, really dig?

It can be a real bummer when a person you fancy is unable to reciprocate the feelings you have for them.

But you mustn't let such an outcome get you down.

Everyone experiences rejection at some point or another. It's not a reflection of your physical appearance or character necessarily.

It is simply indicative of the fact that different people have different taste.

Maybe you fall a little short (no pun intended) when it comes to their preferred height, or they're seeking someone who's more on the adventurous side.

Or, perhaps they realize the two of you have chemistry, but they're already in a relationship. Or it may very well be that they just got out of a rocky marriage and wish to remain single for now.

In other words, you may not meet that specific person's criteria, but it certainly doesn't mean that'll be the case with every man or woman you pursue.

You will eventually meet someone who will love you for who you are, so never give in to the urge to change in hopes of winning someone's heart. With the right person, you'll never have to go to such lengths.

The bottom line is that you should never take rejection personally.

No one wishes to be relegated to the so-called friend zone, but think of it this way: Being rejected outright is still better than being led on.

That way, you can redirect your time and energy toward people who are actually in the dating market.

People who pretend to be interested in someone, but only use them for their money or attention, are selfish, disgraceful human beings. No one deserves to be used in that manner.

If you get turned down, look on the bright side. It can only mean someone better awaits. Once you come across that individual, you'll be glad the other person took a pass on you.

As with every other kind of setback/disappointment we deal with in life, it's not about what happens to us, but how we deal with it and use that experience to better ourselves.

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