The definition of a true relationship is...

A real relationship is, plain and simple, one in which two imperfect people refuse to give up on one another.

Let's face it: If one expects a flawless partner -- let alone a perfect relationship -- they're sure to have a rude awakening.

If there's one thing we can all attest to, it's that relationships have their ups and downs.

Sometimes partners will do things to test each other's patience and loyalty. Some may come to the brink of calling it quits.

But if two people genuinely love each other, they'll do all they can to find common ground.

They won't always agree on the best way to tackle a problem, but they'll each make some concessions so that each party feels as though their voice is being heard.

A relationship will undoubtedly falter if both people are always out to get the upper hand. Relationships are about navigating challenges together so you can grow stronger together.

But seeking to prove the other wrong or catch him or her red-handed will only exacerbate tensions and hasten the relationship's demise.

Partners who respect one another don't point the finger or project onto the other person frustration precipitated by issues in their personal or professional lives.

Instead, they're about being communicative and understanding that we all have our bad days. Sometimes we just need our significant other to lend an ear and tell us that things will get better.

There will be times where our partner will drive us up the wall. But in true relationships -- ones built to last -- each partner realizes such feelings are transitory. A person's flaws and mistakes don't reflect their true character in its entirety.

If we truly love our partner, we don't ever have to question whether we're with the right person.

We know deep down the other is imperfect -- as we are -- but we're willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work because we recognize how much they enrich our lives.

In flimsy relationships, however, people resort to making excuses, and that's precisely why so many fail.

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