Don't fall for THIS kind of person

When it comes to romance, we all have different taste. And that's definitely a good thing, because otherwise we'd be chasing after the same people!

Some of us are attracted to tall people. Some of us like quiet and bookish. Still others are drawn to gregarious athletic types.

There is, however, a certain type of individual you should never fall in love with, and that is the kind who doesn't seem to know what they want in a partner.

You never know where you stand with these people. No sooner do they give you the impression that they're interested in finally settling down with you than they back away.

They're afraid of commitment -- plain and simple. They appear to always keep an eye out for "something better" that may come along. Just when you think you're becoming a priority in their life, you realize you're still an option.

Unfortunately, some of us can't help but fall for people who turn out to be this way. In the beginning, they sweep you off their feet with their charm, good looks, and sense of humor, and your gut tells you that they're the real deal.

Over time, it becomes apparent that they're all about the thrill of the chase and the so-called honeymoon stage of the relationship. Once things become too serious and comfortable, they get bored and look elsewhere for a fresh challenge.

As soon as you discover he or she isn't who or how you imagined, don't continue to get sucked in emotionally.

Abort ship and find a wonderful individual who seeks the same deep commitment you do. You deserve someone who is sure you're the one they want to be with -- not somebody who suffers from grass is greener syndrome.

As I've advised in prior posts, it's important you find out right out of the gate what he or she is looking for. If they can't provide an answer to that question, then they have in fact given you an answer -- and it's time to move on.

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