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Don't waste time on those who don't care

Your time is precious. It's the only thing in life that you can't get back once it's gone.

That being said, it needn't be spent on people who won't give you the time of day.

You're worth so much more than that.

If you find that your calls and texts go unanswered, your proposals to hang out fall on deaf ears, and your interest level far exceeds that of the other person, it's time to reevaluate the relationship.

People make time for the things and people that matter most to them. If they can't carve out so much as a minute to reply to your text message, it means you're definitely not high up on their priority list.

At this point, it may be tempting to contemplate to death the reasons why they may be unresponsive or seem disinterested. A bevy of questions might cross your mind, including:

  • Could they be seeing someone else?
  • Have they lost interest in me?
  • Did I do something wrong?
  • Is something going on in their personal life?
  • Are they hanging out with other people?
But this isn't healthy. Before you know it, you'll be caught in a vicious cycle of "what ifs" that can be very difficult to escape from. 

As long as you've tried to establish contact, you should have a clear conscience. You've done your part. The ball is in their court. You've made excuses for them and given them the benefit of the doubt long enough.

We all have responsibilities -- work, spouse, kids, pets, hobbies, extracurricular activities, and so forth. It's true that life can get awfully busy. But if you value a relationship enough, you'll feel compelled to put some effort into keeping it afloat. 

Some people, however, fail to invest this time and effort, only to watch the relationship slip from their fingers. By the time they realize they've lost their friend or partner and are willing to spring into action, it's too late. The other person has moved on.

Fortunately, you can always abandon such ill-fated relationships for ones in which your efforts are reciprocated. Some people actually enrich your life rather than drag you down, and it's those you should gravitate towards. 

Instead of waiting for the "no shows" to come around, reach out to people who would be thrilled to see you at a moment's notice. Make the most of your time with people who would actually appreciate it.

People who are indifferent towards you learn a painful lesson later on: You don't know what or whom you have until you lose them.
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