Stop chasing the WRONG things and people

Once you stop chasing after the wrong things or people, you give the right things or people a chance to catch you.

Unfortunately, it isn't always easy to tell when certain things or people -- say, a stressful job or inconsiderate partner -- aren't right for us.

Then again, some of us find ourselves in such a situation time and time again. Take the girl who can't help but fall for the bad boy, or a former alcoholic who repeatedly falls off the wagon.

If you persistently engage in these damaging behaviors, how do you expect to progress in life? You'll continue to miss out on job opportunities, potential suitors, and hobbies/interests that can greatly enrich your life.

Some people are simply in denial. They recognize something or someone as adverse and yet they still have a hard time extricating themselves from it. For example, they hang on to the idea that their insolent boyfriend will change for the better. Or, they justify smoking or drinking with the argument that it simply relaxes them.

Never let your emotions override your judgment. We can't make optimal decisions unless the brain and heart work in tandem.

Put yourself in situations where positive rather than negative situations can manifest themselves. Go to job fairs, where you might just find a lead for your next job. Join Alcoholics Anonymous or other help groups if you're having trouble laying off the booze or cigarettes. If you're looking for love, assess what you may have done wrong in your last search and make the necessary adjustments.

And even though the above quote says "a chance to catch you," that'll never happen unless you put in some time and effort yourself. Nothing is going to magically fall into your lap -- you have to go out there and make it happen!

Be positive. Eschew the negative. Focus your energies on the things and people that will bring added enjoyment into your life. Follow your dreams!

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