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You can't be the best at EVERYTHING

Many of us feel pressured to be the best at everything we do, whether in our personal or professional lives. 

At work, you may feel as though you have to be a jack of all trades and master of them all, from creating complex spreadsheets to possessing the leadership skills to guide your subordinates. In your aerobics or karate class, you might be hard on yourself because you're not progressing as quickly as your peers. And at home, perhaps you're disappointed that you're not as great at cooking or handiwork as you thought.

I'm here to tell you one thing: No one is perfect. It takes time to become very good at something, and given the fact that we're so strapped for time, we may never become as good at everything as we'd like.

Unfortunately, far too many of us are reluctant to ask for help. We try to figure everything out on our own, only to get frustrated when we're not getting the results we want. 

Even experts at their craft had to start somewhere. They likely sought assistance from books, colleagues, friends, or relatives at one point, too. Never be afraid to ask for assistance, as most people will be more than glad to lend a hand. 

And more likely than not, such experts likely messed up many times before becoming adept at it. 

Though ample practice might not always make "perfect," it will definitely help you become better at cooking, painting, supervising, or whatever it is you want to learn how to do well.

The trick is never to give up. Persistence is key. Not all of us can play basketball like Michael Jordan or cook like Bobby Flay. Still, we can get pretty good at it so long as we remain dedicated and, best of all, have lots of fun in the process.

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