What does this quote mean to YOU?

Today's quote comes from Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790), whose work runs the gamut from Founding Father of the United States to accomplished author, printer, inventor, statesman, and diplomat.

"Words may show a man's wit but actions his meaning." - Benjamin Franklin

I feel that this is an 18th century variant of an oft-repeated quote we've come to know quite well: "actions speak louder than words."

I think this quote is especially timely in this politically-charged time we live in. Presidential candidates on both sides of the aisle -- like Hillary Clinton, Donald Trump, and Ben Carson -- are promising to effect sweeping changes should they come out the victor. It remains to be seen, however, whether they truly live up to their words. The American people are cognizant of the fact that politicians will say anything to procure votes, and that paying lip service is just part of the game.

But the quote's relevance extends beyond the world of politics. How many people have you met who score high marks when it comes to charm, charisma, and gregariousness, but fail to make good on their rhetoric when push comes to shove? I've come across so many people this way that I've lost count.

People who fall in the "not-to-be-trusted" camp are those who:

Constantly make empty promises
Use their wiles and personality to get what they want and hurt people in the process
Make it a habit to lie about everything to get their way
Lack any core values but pretend to have them nonetheless

On the other hand, those who make good on their words and promises are to be commended. It demonstrates that they value others enough to follow through on things they've committed to.

If a person truly has no inclination to do something, he or she shouldn't make promises under false pretenses. In the end, you'll only end up shooting yourself in the foot and alienating those who trust and depend on you.

What does the above quote mean to you?

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