Where do you go for peace and quiet?

Have you noticed that we spend most of our time in noisy, busy settings?

Whether it's the ruckus of children at home or the ceaseless chatter of coworkers in the office, it is reasonable to expect ample commotion whereever several people are gathered.

That's why, every once in a while, I retreat to quiet environments where I can almost hear myself think. These oases of calm allow me to feel more relaxed and rejuvenated:

1. Church (not during mass): I like stopping by my local church for a prayer when I know I'll be the only one in there. My faith is an important part of my life, and sometimes I want to feel like it's only me and the man upstairs.

2. Park: Though expecting for a park to be completely empty is too much to ask for, I still appreciate the opportunity it affords me to enjoy some quiet time and commune with nature.

3. Library: By now, it should be no secret that I love writing, reading, and learning. What better place to do this than the library? In fact, I especially like when it's so quiet that you can hear a pin drop.

So where do you like going to enjoy a little peace and quiet? Does too much quietness make you uneasy?

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