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Ladies: Which of these are you?

Ladies, take a moment to read the four categories I've listed below. Would you say you're a:

1) A girly girl: You're almost as passionate about discussing shoes, makeup, and clothes as you are about buying them

2) Like one of the guys: You love watching and/or playing sports, and you know more about sports than many of your male buddies

3) On the nerdier side: A night isn't fun unless it's intellectually-stimulating. You'd be perfectly content spending it at home reading a gripping book.

4) A little of each: Depending on the day and your mood, you can be any of the above

If you asked me which type of women men generally like being around the most for an extended period of time, it would probably be those who fall under #2. They say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, but a woman who knows her sports or cars is irresistible to most guys.

Men want their women to be feminine, so #1 can be important. However, you'll want to refrain from blathering on about this stuff for hours on end; that's the quickest way to get him to reach for the TV remote. Some men want women who can talk about, you know, deeper things.

And that brings me to #3. Guys like me love a woman who can converse about business, politics, science, history, literature, or any other substantive topics. I've said this in prior posts: There's nothing I find more attractive than an intelligent woman-- one who actually enjoys learning about and debating profound subjects.

The bottom line is that men not only have different taste, but they may be willing to compromise on something he desires if she brings something else to the table. For example, a guy may ease his requirement that she have a bachelor's degree if she's a "10" on the attractiveness scale. A love of books may be a turn-off to some guys and a big plus to others.

Ladies, share which group(s) you fall under. Have you noticed whether the guys you meet prefer any one of these?

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