Sunday Scenario: If you were stranded on an island...

This one will require some serious thought, so hold on to your pants, folks:

If you were stranded on an island with no one other than a fairly attractive member of the opposite sex as a result of an unfortunate plane crash and were aware that the chances of you both ever getting off the island were slim to none, do you think you might eventually become physically and emotionally intimate with that person?

The scenario described above is reminiscent of the movie "Cast Away" featuring Tom Hanks, except that in this case the chances of ever making it back home are virtually nil.

I know that this is a tough one, especially for those who have a spouse and children.

Note that we're assuming the following:

Friends and family haven't heard from you in a while, and many have assumed you've died
You have no access to phones, and there's no way of reaching out to anyone else on the island
You and the other person have enough food and water to tide you over for a few years
You've found a way to put together a makeshift hut in which you both can sleep

I know most people might say, "If I have a partner and kids, there's no way I would get close to another person." But if you've been stranded on an island for months if not years and there's the possibility you might never leave the island, would it really be that easy for us to resist temptation?

Since prehistoric times, human beings have needed the care, warmth, and affection of others in order to function properly in society. And let's face it: We all have sexual needs. It's possible that both of you might pledge not to become romantically entangled and remain celibate on the island. But it's only human nature that you begin to develop feelings for someone after spending a long time with him or her, especially if the person has made a solemn effort to look after you.

So what would you do in this scenario? Looking forward to reading your responses!

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Comments

James Mason said…

I am certain, I would develop a physiological bond to her. Given, all the essentials for that to happen, will be this environment. Great thoughts.

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