Here's a secret about men that women don't know about...

Women spend countless hours at the gym and untold amounts of money on special diets in an effort to lose weight -- just so that they can look more attractive to men. But here's a secret men won't admit to:

Many of them actually like heavier women!

I know men have different tastes when it comes to women, but many of the ones I've talked to have said the following:

They wouldn't mind dating someone who is a tad chubby/few extra pounds
Even if their girlfriends of wives were to gain some weight, they would not pressure them to lose the weight, or at least right away

I feel many men are afraid to come out and say this openly because they feel society will scorn them for it. Men are supposed to like thin models like the ones you see in the magazines, or so they've been brainwashed into thinking. They fear their friends will make fun of them for "settling for less."

Here's my message to these men: I actually prefer heavier women myself, and I am not ashamed in the slightest to admit it. If you wouldn't mind dating heavier girls, don't hold back just to appease your friends. Screw what society says is normal or sexy. This is the 21st century! Thick, voluptuous, and chubby is in. Emaciated stick figure-like models? Where is the sexy in that?

No harm in having more cushion for the pushin'!

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