Welcome to Relationship Advice and Relationship Tips

Welcome to my new blog -- Relationship Advice and Relationship Tips!

My name is Jeff Martinez and I'm excited about the opportunity to share with you my insights into the fascinating world of relationship psychology. I graduated with a degree in psychology and have always been ferociously passionate about the human mind. To me, there's nothing quite as fascinating as studying how we think -- why we gravitate toward certain people and not others, how our personalities dictate how we react to situations, why our behavior changes based on context and myriad other factors, and so on.

As you'll note from the title of the blog, I aim to make this site a rich repository of content that focuses primarily on useful relationship tips and relationship advice. When I say relationships, I'm referring to:

Relationships with your partner or spouse
Relationships with your co-workers
Relationships with your friends
Relationships with acquaintances
Your relationship with yourself

If you love psychology (as I do!), you'll find this blog to be a welcome treat, as I will touch upon a wide spectrum of subjects that delve into human behavior. For example, I will shed light on:

The ways perception trumps reality in life
The notion of a self-concept and why it's important
Reasons why other people lie, cheat, and exhibit jealousy toward us
Whether money and material possessions truly bring more happiness
The ups and downs in marriages and relationships -- and how to navigate them
Why better looking generally have it better in life

As you can see, these are compelling subjects all of take a great interest in since we can relate to them. My hope is that you will take away something from my blog that you can apply to your own life.

Again, welcome to Relationship Advice, Relationship Counseling, Relationship Tips.

Enjoy!

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This will spell the end of your relationship

When asked to think about the most common culprits for a relationship's going south, most people will point to cheating, complacency, and taking one's partner for granted. While these are all valid -- and documented in various posts on this blog -- there are certain habits on the part of partners that may not kill the relationship right away, but cause it to erode more gradually. Among the most egregious of these is expecting your significant other to be perfect. They pick at your follies any chance they get. Nothing you do is ever good enough. In fact, you will never measure up to an ex, neighbor, or accomplished co-worker. Perhaps this all sounds a bit familiar. When you feel as though you're constantly being put under the microscope, it can inflict lasting damage on the relationship and your self-esteem. You're walking on eggshells all the time, praying you don't say or do something that's going to trigger your partner. This is no way to live, let alone ca

No response from someone IS a response

Make no mistake about it: When you don't get a response from someone -- whether they fail to answer your texts or return your phone calls -- it is still a response, and a powerful one at that. When a person fails to respond, it's a direct reflection of their interest -- or lack thereof -- in the relationship. Few things are more aggravating than having to hound a partner, friend, or relative for some sort of reply after we've reached out to them. Yes, we get busy from time to time, but that doesn't give anyone the right to leave the other person hanging. A terse text with something like "Been busy, will reach out soon" doesn't say much, but at least it shows some effort to bring the other person up to speed on why they've fallen off the radar. Failing to provide a response for weeks -- if not months -- communicates that you are just not a priority, and that you'll have to wait your turn to get this individual's attention. This is n

Misconceptions about quiet people

Earlier today, I came across a Facebook page that features motivational quotes intended to improve people's moods and enhance their overall self-esteem. Interestingly, I noticed two quotes that focus specifically on quiet people: "Be afraid of quiet people; they're the ones who actually think." "The quietest people have the loudest minds." I've observed that most people's views of quiet individuals can fall under one of two categories: 1. The ones who say quiet people are antisocial, suspicious, snobbish, and/or full of themselves. 2. The people who say their introspective nature and propensity to be deep in thought makes them smarter than their more garrulous peers. The quotes above speak to this mindset. As an introvert known to be quiet at work and at social functions where I might not know anyone, I feel I'm well positioned to dispel any inaccuracies surrounding quiet folks. First of all, the above statements misguidedly put

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