The truth about having good looks

Let's face it: Having good looks means nothing if you're a bad person. Beauty is only skin deep. Those who are smug and think they can treat others with disrespect only because they're physically attractive are demonstrating one thing: they're ugly on the inside, and that makes them ugly as a whole.

I don't care whether you have a gorgeous face or an amazing body. A rotten personality undermines one's best physical attributes. I'd take a "4" with a big heart over a "10" who's as deep as a puddle any day of the week.

I can't stand people who are conceited -- the ones who walk around thinking they're owed something on account of their good looks. They act as if they're God's gift to the world and often belittle those who aren't as physically eye-catching.

It's these people who eventually wind up alone. Looks fade. People get wrinkles and gain weight. Old age catches up with us sooner or later.

On the other hand, people who prioritize non-physical factors -- one's feelings, sense of humor, intelligence -- are the ones who find abiding happiness. It doesn't matter whether their partner gets gray hairs or gains a few pounds. Why? Because they see beyond the physical and are in tune with the things that really count.

I have a friend who seems convinced that the ever-elusive girl of his dreams will look like a supermodel, or close to it. I've tried to convince him not to place so great an emphasis on looks, but my advice seems to fall on deaf ears. I sincerely hope my friend will soon realize that he's going about it the wrong way.

Good looks are obviously not a bad thing, but there is so much more to a person than that. It's what lies within that truly defines a person. For those who are limiting their search to 9s and 10s: try to expand your horizons a bit to include 7s and 8s. Then consider meeting a few 5s and 6s.

Don't discount people solely on the basis of physical appearance. Cockiness is one of the most unpleasant qualities a person can have. Instead, give people who you find a little less attractive a chance. Your true love might just be someone you'd never imagine hooking up with.

Great looks plus a wonderful personality? Now there's a great catch! But a person's inside enhances their outward appearance. I've met countless people who were initially not attracted to their partner when they first met. But once they got to know the person, it's as if the inner beauty made even their looks more appealing.

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