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Do women like bossy men?

In a word, no.

There's a fine line to be drawn between assertiveness/self-confidence, qualities which women find attractive, and all-out bossiness, which can send them running for the hills.

If a woman has to choose between a needy guy and a bossy one, who do you think will prevail? Well, both guys would be out of luck.

Women don't want a pushover any more than they desire a guy who tells them what to do all the time. If they had it their way, they'd opt for something in the middle.

For example, choosing something on the menu for her every time you both go to a restaurant is a big no no. She is not 5 years old and will react unfavorably to not being allowed to pick an item freely.

However, when it comes to choosing a restaurant -- or anywhere else to go for that matter -- women like a man with a plan. It's a turn off to constantly be asking her, "Where should we eat tonight?" "What do you wish to do this weekend?"

Women value a man who can take initiative. For instance, by telling her you've selected a great restaurant in which to await the new year together, it demonstrates you actually took the time to plan a memorable night.

This is quite different from telling a woman what she should eat, how she should dress, or whom she shouldn't be friends with. Women can see from a mile away when men are trying to micromanage their lives for the purpose of asserting their authority.

Guys, take note. Treat your lady with respect, but don't seek her approval to validate every decision you make. Be self confident, but not insofar as to try and run her life. You need to strike the right balance.

Ladies, what's your take on bossy men?




Comments

Anonymous said…
I've had a manager who managed 3 employees. All of them left her after a few short months due to bullying and inappropriate communication. After she lost all of her team, she posted a comment on her FB account: "I've always loved bossy women as friends, debate buddies, mentors, teachers and confidants. Thank you friends and family who have bossed me around... you've made a huge difference in my life." After 3 months, she was no longer with the company.

Let me ask you two questions. When you lose all of your employees due to your inappropriate communication, berating, and humiliation tactics, and you post such comment on your FB account, would you say this is a sign of a leader with appropriate character? (She was a director, btw.)

My second question is this. Imagine a male supervisor would lose his employees due to HIS inappropriate communication and bullying tactics, and then HE would post such comment on his FB account. Would that be acceptable?

Bullying, being "bossy", berating, humiliating is NOT acceptable regardless of what you have between your legs. Her post was just as inappropriate as if it would be a post from a male supervisor.

Of course she removed the post from public view later. I'm willing to bet she realized it doesn't look good.

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