Women aren't attracted to overly nice guys

Here's a message for single men as well as those in relationships: Like everything else in life, being nice should be done moderately.

As crazy as this may sound, women neither want nor expect you to be nice, sweet, and romantic 24/7. If you do this with the intention of getting laid or having her fall in love with you, you will fail miserably!

You can be nice and respectful without overdoing it.

What is overdoing it? Well, you are sure to lose her respect and get even less hibbity dibbity if you opt not to:

Stand your ground and defend your positions
Call her out on her screw-ups so as not to "offend" her
Take the lead in the bedroom; women like men who know what they're doing, and most of them like "rough and tumble"
Keep her on the edge of her feet; unpredictability keeps her wondering what you'll do next and actually draws her closer to you
Have your own hobbies outside of the relationship
View her as enhancing your life instead of completing it; you have to be happy with yourself before bringing anyone else into your life
Have a job and support yourself; yes, women prefer men with resources
Not chop her balls once in a while; your teasing her shows her you're comfortable in your own skin and aren't worried as to how she'll react (as long as you don't disrespect her)
Hone a sense of humor (they love men who can make them laugh)
Hone dancing skills (they go wild for men who have the moves)

Thus, women dig unpredictable who are self-confident, assertive, funny, gainfully employed, and can cook on the dance floor.

Does this apply to every single woman out there? No. We all have our quirks, but in general, women just don't feel attraction toward men who shower them with endless gifts and compliments.

There's a fine line between being romantic and flat-out obsessed. Don't cross it. Be a little mysterious. Be a little spontaneous. It'll pay huge dividends -- I guarantee it.

And contrary to popular belief, you don't have to look like Brad Pitt to attract women. All it takes is self-confidence!

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