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Don't waste time on people who aren't worth it

Don't waste your time, energy, and brain cells on people who simply aren't worth it. Who cares that Sally from high school makes more money than you? Or that a neighbor you hardly even know has a better car? Or that several people you have on Facebook -- whom you barely ever speak to -- travel to Walt Disney World five times a year?

It's really a shame that, for so many people, life has become little more than a competition to best their peers. They can't help but assess how well they're doing in life by comparing themselves to other people -- people that may have completely different goals, interests, values, and personalities altogether.

As I've noted in prior posts, sites like Facebook can bring out the worst in some people. It has evolved into a breeding ground for narcissism unlike anything I've seen before. Selfies, gloating about eating at the hottest restaurant in town, pictures galore while on vacation in the Bahamas. It's become more about showing off than sharing.

Whether you want to be married, make more money, have a bigger house, own a nicer car, or have ten diplomas hanging on your wall, do these things because YOU want to do them. Don't cave into social pressure. Don't try to emulate your friends or co-workers. Do things to better yourself independent of what everyone else is doing. Enhancing oneself shouldn't have any strings attached.

At the end of the day, these people are not paying your bills or donating their kidney for you. Why become so preoccupied with what others are doing? They have their own lives, ambitions, and problems. Focus on yours!

Think of it this way: These people aren't thinking about or worrying over you, so why should you waste mental resources on them? It's this kind of thinking that begets envy, resentment, depression, and other negative health outcomes.

Concentrate on your dreams -- your accomplishments. Maybe deep down you don't want to become a CEO like your friend Charles or own an expensive car like your cousin Jeremy. Perhaps you'd be content making $60,000 a year as a lower-level employee and driving a Nissan Altima.

Success means different things to different people. Some people care less about material things than others. There are those whose ultimate goal is to live a simpler life.

Rather than compare yourself to your peers, a better strategy is to compare yourself now to how you were a year ago and gauge how much you've accomplished since. Is your life what you want it to be? If not, take action -- starting today -- so that you can be one step closer to making those things a reality.

Comments

CHERRY'S TAKE said…
So POWERFUL SO ME
SO REAL SO GENUINE
SO TRUE
Black Rose said…
This was so amazing , and needs to be understand by many people

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