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COUGARS: Here's what older women like about younger men...

We've all seen at least one movie where an older woman ensnares a younger, more inexperienced guy. (Ann Bancroft opposite Dustin Hoffman in "The Graduate" is a perfect example.)

A lot of women prefer -- and can't seem to get enough of -- younger men. But what is it about these lads that would drive a woman to pick them over men their own age?

The way I see it, some women find the prospect of "deflowering" a sexually inexperienced guy all too alluring. They think to themselves, "Hey, I could teach this guy a few things."

Moreover, the mere fact that someone 10 -- even 20 -- years her junior could be more interested in her than someone closer to his age serves as a definite ego boost. Once women reach an age where they're no longer able to have kids, the chances of landing a young stud become less likely.

However, many men in their 20s and 30s aren't interested in anything serious, let alone having children. And that's precisely why cougars and "MILFs" zero in on them. These women are usually divorcees (some with kids, some without) and they're looking for nothing more than a little fun at this juncture of their lives.

Which leads me to my next point: Being involved with much younger guys helps women feel younger themselves; indeed, it has a certain "rubbing off" effect. Some even imagine being their partner's age again. In addition to being the ticket to a more exciting sex life, a younger partner might inspire the cougar to take up activities people his age typically enjoy (and that she may have enjoyed way back when), like clubbing, working out, and shooting pool.

Society generally frowns upon a relationship in which the woman is so much older than the man. My take on it: Age is just a number. As long as both parties consent to the relationship and are clear as to what each person wants to get out of it, why not? It can be a win-win for both.

Ladies, what do you think? Would you ever enter into a relationship 10 or 20 years younger than you?

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Unknown said…
Hey Jeff ! Good one. Glad you did a re post. This is a multi faucet tap for sure. Many reasons, (and I will try to remember to get back in here later when have a bit more time and post a few not mentioned above.) Probs most air apparent is just that our species is not as repressed as we used to be back in the day ;) More comphy to just do as we like no apologies ;) Cougs are powerful in a way a young kitty will one day be. And it's good to be Queen, of the Jungle that is.
LOVE LOVE LOVE this reply. Thanks, Angelica!
Unknown said…
And all that LOVE comes back to you!! As Ellen would say. Your posts are the bomb diggity, Jeff M. is life. Hope you don't mind I use the chronologically younger language with expressing myself sometimes haha . Just there are times when those adjectives and synonyms work best in my opinion. And besides as people getting older often say.. "It's weird, because mostly, in my head, I still feel like I am 20." Hmmm Could be a good thing or bad depending on the individual. ;)
Unknown said…
And all that LOVE comes back to you!! As Ellen would say. Your posts are the bomb diggity, Jeff M. is life. Hope you don't mind I use the chronologically younger language with expressing myself sometimes haha . Just there are times when those adjectives and synonyms work best in my opinion. And besides as people getting older often say.. "It's weird, because mostly, in my head, I still feel like I am 20." Hmmm Could be a good thing or bad depending on the individual. ;)
I don't mind at all! :) You seem like a smart, fun, and interesting woman -- one any guy, whatever his age, would be lucky to have. Besides, age is just a number!

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