Ready to let go of those toxic people?

The time has come to sever ties with the ones who've done you wrong, with the ones who fail to appreciate all you do for them.

Granted, nobody's perfect. We're all guilty of missteps. But if you've done your part to atone for your mistakes and the other person hasn't, it's obvious who places a higher premium on the relationship.

If it's your boss who's toxic and has subjected you to mental and emotional abuse, you need to stop putting off finding a new job. No role -- irrespective of pay, benefits, and other perks -- is worth risking your well-being for!

Those benefits can always be replaced, but as far as your mental wellness, it isn't always automatic (or even guaranteed).

If your partner is abusive in any way, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, you must stop giving them a free pass. Everyone is entitled to respect and dignity.

The longer such behavior carries on, the greater the chance of your mental or emotional state deteriorating to the point where you might need to seek counseling.

Then there are so-called friends who we deemed trustworthy, but who turned out anything but. Maybe they stabbed you in the back or ghosted you for no reason at all.

Just remember that you don't have to put up with it. Life's too short -- and there are far too many people walking the Earth -- to give someone who doesn't value you so much sway.

Part of finding happiness is being selective about who stays in your life. Rather than thinking that you should be lucky to be a part of their lives, why not consider the inverse: that anyone who has you in their circle is the lucky one?

Even if someone tries to assure you that you do matter to them, the question you must ask yourself is: Do they show it? If the answer is no, it's all hot air.

Toxicity in relationships will ultimately bring about their downfall. You'll save yourself a world of pain and anguish by bolting sooner rather than later.

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