Remove from your life those who don't respect you

Steer clear of those who fail to reciprocate the kindness and respect you grant them.

Perhaps you've given them ample opportunities to clean up their act, to no avail.

Maybe you've held out this long because you saw potential in the relationship or anticipated they might change. Or perhaps relations only recently broke down.

The fact of the matter is that everyone deserves to be treated in a kind, gracious matter.

The whole point of being in a relationship -- whether friendly or romantic -- is to experience/exchange love, warmth, loyalty, and respect. If the relationship is devoid of these, there's really no point to it.

If you're not being treated fairly, you have to question why. If it's something you did, presumably you issued an apology at some point that was accepted. He or she could have very well kicked you out of their life at that point rather than string you along as a form of retribution.

And if you've done nothing wrong, perhaps you're being taken for granted. He or she might assume you'll stick around no matter what. Or, they've hit a rough patch in their life and have decided to take their angst out on you.

You deserve better than to be anyone's punching bag. If your gut tells you deep down that respect, kindness, and loyalty will forever elude you in this relationship, it's best to end it. That way, you can redirect your time and energy toward those who value you for the individual you are.

If respect isn't being served, it's time to leave the table!

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