Walking away doesn't make you weak

Contrary to popular opinion, walking away doesn't signal weakness on your part. It doesn't mean you're quitting on the relationship.

The truth of the matter is that we often walk away when we perceive the other person as having lost interest and given up.

When you've exhausted all options -- from having frank conversations to trying to vivify the relationship by trying out new things to suggesting counseling -- you yourself are left so emotionally drained that you have nothing else left to give.

Failed relationships are usually the product of only one partner (or, in the worst cases, neither) investing time and energy in the other person.

This can be challenging for some people because you have to be very intentional about it -- carving out time for your partner, coming up with ways to infuse life into the relationship, and so on.

But most people use work, the kids, and other items on their To Do List as reasons for not being on the ball.

If your conscience tells you that you've done everything you can conceivably do to salvage the relationship, you should never feel guilty for walking.

In the event that your partner refuses to acquiesce, he or she leaves you with little choice but to cut ties entirely. At that point, you have no obligation to answer their texts or calls, or to receive them at the door.

They'll get the hint that you've moved on with your life and look to embark a new, happier chapter.

Ending a relationship is never easy, especially when you have a history with the person. Chances are things were going a lot better earlier on and seriously hoped you could turn things around.

But it takes two people to right the ship. And if they didn't care enough to help you do just that, why should you give them the time of day now?

Walk away before your mental health gets even more negatively impacted.

I commend you on taking this major step in your life. Rest assured it will get better.

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