Is love really priceless? Here's the answer...

Now that the holidays are here, everyone's first order of business outside of work is to buy their loved ones presents. In some people's minds, the bigger and more expensive the item, the better.

But let's face it: Even though we have good intentions, love -- at the end of the day -- isn't measured in gifts.

It's measured in the little things we do every day (not just during Christmas) to show people we love them, such as

Surprising them with a hot cup of coffee on a frigid morning

Creating a scrapbook with pictures that capture special memories

Sending texts throughout the day just to let the other know they are thinking of them

Taking them to a museum to see a popular exhibit he or she never experienced as a kid

Chatting poolside over coffee into the wee hours

Cooking his or her favorite meal on any ordinary day -- as a way of saying "you're special and deserve this"

True love is priceless - it cannot be quantified.

If a man can't afford to buy his lady a very expensive piece of jewelry, does that mean he doesn't love her?

If a woman lacks the means to purchase her guy a pricey suit, is it a sign her heart isn't in it?

Of course not.

If you really think gifts are truly representative of a person's feelings for you, you might just be a tad, well, materialistic.

I'm not saying we shouldn't splurge on our partner every now and then, provided we can afford it.

But if a partner were to lose his job tomorrow through no fault of his own, does it mean all love suddenly goes out the window because he is unable to buy his lady fancy schmancy stuff?

In your deathbed, money, jewelry, and all that other jazz won't matter. What will is that you have your loved ones there with you as you prepare to depart from this world.

As Saint Augustine once said, "The only measure of love is to love without measuring." Love is one thing you can't simply stick a dollar sign on.

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