Here's a big relationship no-no: Never hook up with Someone who only values your looks, bank account, or both.
I know what you're thinking: With some people, this isn't easy to tell in the beginning being that they can do a great job of masking their real intentions.
For example, you may have once dated someone whose penchant for gold-digging may not have become evident until two years after you began dating. Or, you may not have picked up on your boyfriend's aim to use you for only one thing until after the honeymoon phase passed.
Fair enough.
Some individuals can be awfully deceptive. But as soon as they show their true colors, I implore you not to wait until they change (which is unlikely to happen) -- let alone embark to change them yourself. Just end it -- plain and simple -- before you become any more invested.
A partner worth keeping is one who covets what lies beneath more than they do the superficial. And that's because what lies deep within is what makes you who you are -- not the six pack or luxury car you sport.
Money can always run out and looks will most definitely fade. What you're left with are enduring traits that distinguish you from others and will ultimately cement your legacy -- character, integrity, and loyalty among them.
If you end up with someone's who's only into you for shallow reasons, it will gradually eat away at your self-esteem and self-worth. Assurances that they recognize and treasure your inner attributes will ring hollow. Promises to change will forever go unfulfilled.
Now, I'm not saying it's necessarily a bad thing to want a partner whom you find attractive and financially accomplished -- as long it doesn't mean you wouldn't so much as consider someone of modest means or average looks.
That's different from being jobless and expecting a partner to subsidize your life. It's a far cry from insisting that your partner look like a supermodel, and that any visible signs of weight gain or aging are grounds for a break-up.
We're more than our houses, cars, and physiques. We're human beings with feelings, hearts, and minds. Instead of putting so much stock in a partner's appearance or net worth, why not delve into their intelligence? Their hopes? Their values?
At the end of the day, if money is a person's primary concern, they're looking to do some gold digging. And if they prioritize looks, they may just want a trophy wife/husband to show off. We first witness this in high school and unfortunately some people just never outgrow the phase.
And notice how I mentioned "relationship" in the title of this post. Perhaps focusing on looks or money may work for a short-term fling just fine. But serious, committed individuals have more far important stuff to cross off their checklist.
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