The BEST connection you can have with a partner is this

There are good relationships -- then there are relationships that are simply transcendent.

There are relationships in which partners connect physically, intellectually, and emotionally.

Then there are those in which both cultivate a spiritual bond as well, two souls connecting so deeply that nothing short of death could ever break their union.

Oftentimes, a pair might point to the fact they can finish each other's sentences, make the other feel better merely by grabbing their hand, or empathize with them like no one else can as proof that they're truly in sync.

The right partner awakens in us feelings that lay dormant, or that we never knew existed.

Before we met them, maybe we were too afraid to pursue our dreams, or too reluctant to believe in ourselves.

They have a special way of cheering us up when we're feeling down, perhaps with their characteristic smile or laugh.

They may not always agree with everything we say or do (and why would they?), but they accept us for who we are, when we're at our absolute best and worst.

If you've found someone with whom you have an unbounded affinity on four distinct levels -- body, heart, mind, soul -- consider yourself blessed.

Now, that's not to say that if we're unhappy with our own lives, meeting someone like this is going to be a magic bullet, making all feelings of inadequacy and discontent melt away instantly.

You may recall that in prior posts I have stressed how important it is to find happiness in yourself before you set out to meet Mr. or Ms. Right.

If you expect someone else to complete you, your world may come crashing down if they were to end the relationship, which can happen at any moment.

Not to mention that people can change over time; one who seems like your soulmate today may turn out to be a pest you can't imagine spending another year with later.

No matter how strong the connection, a partner's presence in your life can layer in additional happiness.

But if your life was devoid of happiness to begin with, things can go awry when the other person begins to feel immense pressure to please and comfort you.

A partner isn't one to solve our every problem, dry our every tear, calm our every fear.

They're there to magnify the happiness in our already-wonderful lives. They don't make the ride -- they join us for the ride.

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