If someone "steals" your partner, here's who's at fault

Is it possible for someone to pilfer your partner from you?

The answer is no.

No one is forcing your partner to leave you. His or her decision to bolt into the arms of someone else is a conscious move on their part.

Even if the other man or woman deliberately tried to woo your partner with their bulging muscles or feminine wiles, the latter is still at fault for falling into temptation and decimating your trust.

Being seduced is no excuse for cheating on one's partner.

If one feels drawn to someone else -- whether physically, emotionally, or both-- they have two options before going down the slippery slope of infidelity:

1. Telling that person to back off and having a serious conversation with their partner in an effort to rekindle attraction and closeness.

2. Ending the relationship before commencing a new one with the other man or woman.

At least, that would be the mature, thoughtful way to handle the situation.

But those who are thinking only with their privates -- and who are insensitive to their partner's feelings -- will proceed to cheat on them.

Wanting the cake and wanting to eat it too is selfish and despicable. But I firmly believe that what comes around goes around, and the cheater is often the one who winds up miserable in the end.

Karma has a way of balancing things out in an evenhanded fashion.

Perhaps the cheater gets a taste of his own medicine by being cheated on himself.

Or perhaps they come to realize too late that they made a mistake, and there's no going back.

If someone "steals" your significant other, consider it a blessing.

Tell the other man or woman that they can keep your ex because you've realized you deserve better -- that a person worth being with would never stoop so low.

If someone is going to cheat, the least they can do is have enough class to own up to it rather than place the blame squarely on the shoulders of a third party.

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