How critical is patience to our happiness?

We've all heard sayings like "patience is a virtue," "good things come to those who wait," and "everything happens at the right time."

But are these valid assertions, or just tired platitudes?

The fact of the matter is this: Life is a balancing act between striking the right level of patience and working toward one's goals.

There's no question that you shouldn't force what you know in your heart isn't for you.

For example, if your gut tells you that the position you interviewed for isn't right -- and you can afford to hold off a little longer -- don't accept it if an offer is extended.

Or let's pretend you've been single for two years and would do just about anything to hook up with someone. Unfortunately, desperation can drive people to settle for someone who they know deep down is a poor fit.

Needless to say, patience can pay huge dividends. You may second guess your decision initially, only to have a much better option come your way later on.

At the same time, however, you can't expect anything -- whether love or career success -- to fall easily into your lap.

Patience can only take you so far. If you're not actively seeking out opportunities and working hard to make your dreams a reality, you'll surely fall short.

You won't get the job you want unless you make a good impression at the interview, craft a well-written resume and cover letter, and effectively articulate that you're the right man or woman for the position.

Similarly, Mr or Ms. Right won't magically knock on the door and receive you with open arms. You'll need to go out there and take advantage of opportunities to meet potential partners, whether it's at your high school reunion party, church, or a work function.

Rushing into any one decision is not a sound strategy, but neither is waiting for fate to find you the right man or job.

Instead, aim for balance. Don't go for the first thing that comes up, but don't rest on your laurels thinking that things will come together for you with minimal effort.

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