Despite the fact that they seem to be doing everything right -- they have a good job, drive a nice car, and look their very best -- they continue to strike out with woman after woman.
They perceive landing dates as being much more arduous for them than it is for the women they're after, who seem to reject potential suitors at will.
But is dating really an uphill climb for all men and a breezy walk in the park for all the ladies?
I feel this view is a tad simplistic.
If approaching this subject in the context of traditional gender roles -- where the man is the pursuer and is thereby forced to risk rejection -- it may seem like women are always in the driver's seat.
After all, women get far more hits on dating apps/sites like Tinder, right?
But this presupposes that women enjoy all the attention they're getting, and that just isn't the case.
For one, women don't find all the men reaching out to them to be attractive. Not to mention that these women have to be leery of the guys who just have just one aim in mind -- getting them into bed.
If we were to remove all the men that don't pass muster and only factor in the ones these women would actually go for, it would not seem like the women have the upper hand.
Indeed, it's important to recognize that a lot of the attention women get is unsolicited. It's not as if every guy walking up to or contacting them is a George Clooney or Brad Pitt type.
And let's not forget that not ALL women are being heavily pursued.
Whether it's because they're heavier or more conservatively dressed than most men are typically drawn to, some women may be facing dating prospects just as dim as their male counterparts. They might just not be as vocal about it with their friends.
Regardless of gender, someone who insists on dating no one lower than a "10" may find themselves single far longer than a person who doesn't assign as much weight to looks.
In sum, if (1) all women went for anyone who expressed interest, and (2) if all women in the population were being pursued by countless men, then yes, we could say dating is easier for them.
But with so many variables and potential scenarios to consider, it's more appropriate to say it depends on the situation and people at hand.
Surely, if a man is interested in asking someone out, he'll never know if she'll say yes unless he tries. He doesn't fail by working up the courage to approach her and getting rejected. He fails by not trying at all.
Women, for their part, should have no qualms about approaching a man who piques their interest. It's the 21st century. Who says the rules of courtship people followed in the 1950s should apply today?
If you're having trouble finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, don't despair. Good things come to those who are patient, and you might stumble upon your special someone when least expected (if you have not already).
While you shouldn't rush into a relationship, you shouldn't expect love to fall into your lap either. Put yourself out there and leverage all opportunities -- whether online or in person.
There's someone out there for everyone!
If approaching this subject in the context of traditional gender roles -- where the man is the pursuer and is thereby forced to risk rejection -- it may seem like women are always in the driver's seat.
After all, women get far more hits on dating apps/sites like Tinder, right?
But this presupposes that women enjoy all the attention they're getting, and that just isn't the case.
For one, women don't find all the men reaching out to them to be attractive. Not to mention that these women have to be leery of the guys who just have just one aim in mind -- getting them into bed.
If we were to remove all the men that don't pass muster and only factor in the ones these women would actually go for, it would not seem like the women have the upper hand.
Indeed, it's important to recognize that a lot of the attention women get is unsolicited. It's not as if every guy walking up to or contacting them is a George Clooney or Brad Pitt type.
And let's not forget that not ALL women are being heavily pursued.
Whether it's because they're heavier or more conservatively dressed than most men are typically drawn to, some women may be facing dating prospects just as dim as their male counterparts. They might just not be as vocal about it with their friends.
Regardless of gender, someone who insists on dating no one lower than a "10" may find themselves single far longer than a person who doesn't assign as much weight to looks.
In sum, if (1) all women went for anyone who expressed interest, and (2) if all women in the population were being pursued by countless men, then yes, we could say dating is easier for them.
But with so many variables and potential scenarios to consider, it's more appropriate to say it depends on the situation and people at hand.
Surely, if a man is interested in asking someone out, he'll never know if she'll say yes unless he tries. He doesn't fail by working up the courage to approach her and getting rejected. He fails by not trying at all.
Women, for their part, should have no qualms about approaching a man who piques their interest. It's the 21st century. Who says the rules of courtship people followed in the 1950s should apply today?
If you're having trouble finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, don't despair. Good things come to those who are patient, and you might stumble upon your special someone when least expected (if you have not already).
While you shouldn't rush into a relationship, you shouldn't expect love to fall into your lap either. Put yourself out there and leverage all opportunities -- whether online or in person.
There's someone out there for everyone!
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