How rainy days can affect us

Many people absolutely loathe those dark, rainy days that, in their view, hold them hostage at home.

They gripe that this prevents them from going to the mall, meeting up with friends for lunch at the cafe, hitting the gym, or crossing other things off their To Do Lists that necessitate venturing out.

I see it quite differently, perhaps in part because I'm a writer.

Inclement weather should be an excuse to stay home, all curled up with a good book and cup of coffee.

If you're not a bibliophile, you can always catch a good flick while munching on popcorn.

Or how about writing, painting, or napping to the sound of rain streaming down your window?

Or, you can use the time to clean, do laundry, organize your drawers/closets, or take care of those other chores you continue to put off.

As a proud, self-admitted introvert, I jump at any opportunity to stay holed up reading and writing in my home office, or watching knee-slapping shows with my wife in our cozy living room.

Don't get me wrong: We love our movie and dinner dates. We try to make the most of those beautiful, not-a-single-cloud-in-the-sky days by heading to the beach or strolling around the park.

Hunkering down at home too much can undoubtedly give way to cabin fever.

Some people say that rain makes them feel gloomy, while others who are already sullen argue that rain is therapeutic in that they see it as a metaphor for the purging of emotions (e.g., the rain is analogous to their tears).

That being said, a leisure and entertainment plan that strikes a nice balance between indoor relaxation and outdoor fun gives one the best of both worlds.

And once the rain passes, it's nice to go outside and take a whiff. It smells so fresh and clean after a rain shower!

How do you view rainy days?

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