A big sign someone in the relationship is unhappy

A telltale sign someone isn't satisfied in their relationship is when they muse whether there's someone better out there for them.

Perhaps they've been with the same person for many years and have seriously questioned whether they've missed out.

One thing people have to realize is that, as with everything else in life, decisions involve tradeoffs.

The moment you decide to enter into a monogamous relationship with someone, you each forego sleeping with and dating other people.

If someone isn't ready to make that serious of a commitment, they should clearly articulate to others that they're not interested in anything serious.

However, in some cases, people are happy to be in a serious relationship and genuinely care about their partner.

But the fact that things have fallen into something of a rut -- maybe they've become complacent, maybe the intimacy has ground to a halt -- has led them to wonder whether things could be more exciting with someone else.

Unless you communicate openly with your partner, you will never get to the heart of the problem and work to right the ship -- together.

Then again, it may very well be that you CAN do better because, despite your best efforts to get the relationship on sound footing, your partner seems too busy or indifferent to pay attention.

It's at this critical point that you must decide whether it's time to pull the plug.

The bottom line is that life is too short to be in a relationship that brings you more grief than joy or that you're not sure you even want to be in.

However, that should never prompt someone to cheat, which is a selfish act of betrayal.

If one has reached the point where they're entertaining the idea of straying, they should end the relationship at once and spare their partner all that heartache.

But in the midst of all this, the person who is contemplating whether the grass is greener on the other side may find that it isn't.

Sometimes, all it takes to appreciate what you have is to imagine your life without your partner.

Indeed, if imagining the person in the arms of another man or woman doesn't give you a twinge of jealousy, then it is time to move on.

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