People's actions speak louder than their words

Don't just pay attention to people's words. Give greater importance to their actions, for they count far more.

Think of words as being like the facade of a home, and actions being akin to the foundation.

Sure, a house can look pretty and structurally sound on the outside, but if the foundation is compromised, it can have dire consequences. The same goes for a car whose impeccable exterior masks problems that lie under the hood.

In the content of a relationship, people may say they would go to the ends of the Earth for you, but if their behaviors fail to back up their words, such individuals

are full of hot air.

It's people's actions that lend their words substance.

Imagine how many relationships have gone down the drain because people's words didn't match up with their deeds (or misdeeds, I should say).

Maybe you're in a relationship with someone who says he loves you, but he never seems to be around when you're most in need of his support.

Perhaps you have a friend who insists they value your friendship with them, but they never answer your calls or texts.

People dedicate their time and energy to those they value -- not just in theory, but in practice.

Merely "intending" to return one's call or ask how their day went doesn't count.

Does everyone get busy from time to time? Yes.

Are people allowed to have occasional mental lapses where they forget to ask how your job interview went or if you've gotten over your cold? Sure.

But once declarations of love and pledges to be involved begin to feel like disingenuous lies and excuses, you know it's time to sit and have a talk.

If it becomes apparent that they'll never change their ways -- that they're all talk and no action -- you'd be wise to question the future of the relationship.

You deserve a partner or friend who is just as invested as you are -- someone who wholeheartedly believes it's their deeds that should do the actual talking.

Such people may seem few and far between these days, but they're out there -- you just need to know where to look.

Let's face it. When someone truly cares, you don't even have to question it.

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