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Why attraction doesn't make sense sometimes

Have you ever stopped and considered how illogical attraction can be?

Let me give you an example by taking you down memory lane.

Remember back when you were in elementary, middle, or high school and there always seemed to be one particular guy or girl whom everyone seemed to like?

Don't get me wrong: It makes sense why they would have many admirers.

They tended to be good looking and popular (probably on the cheerleading squad or football team) and had tons of friends. Chances are they became prom king/queen.

Maybe even you jumped on the bandwagon and counted yourself among the lovestruck.

What I've always wondered is: Did all of those kids really like the student in question, or did they just express interest them because everyone else did?

I can honestly say that I "fell" for the girl all the guys liked, and it was in middle school.

Once the dust had settled, I realized that I didn't have feelings for the girl after all. I had just fallen for a silly fad, much like wanting to snag the latest iPhone because all your friends want to get their hands on one.

But this kind of thing isn't limited to the teen years.

Even as adults, we may feel drawn to someone only because we know that other men or women are helplessly throwing themselves at them.

But what about the quiet guy who minds his own business? The nerdy girl who cares more about getting A's than who the hottest, most desired guy in their grade is?

I think people should carefully assess what/whom they truly find attractive and why.  What if it's someone who not everyone is pining for?

I realize that kids don't know any better. They're still too young to reason (or care) what they should look for in a significant other, so what's the simplest way to decide whom they should fix their eye on? They just ask their friends who they like, and that's that.

But as adults, we should know better than to go for people simply because they have everyone and their sibling after them.

We may very well may be missing out on someone who may not be a "10" oozing with charisma and confidence, but who shares many of your interests and could make a wonderful life partner.

Looks and popularity should not be the main (and certainly not sole) criteria against which we judge a potential partner.

Qualities like intelligence, loyalty, honesty, openness, and a great sense of humor should certainly be factored in.

So while we may not always be able to control who we're attracted to, we should not gravitate only to people who have a different date every week, or hundreds of admiring Facebook followers.

Maybe the man or woman you should take a closer look at doesn't have that many people after them because destiny has set them aside for you.
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