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Surprising finding about attractive people

Allow me to commence this post by posing a question:

Do you judge attractive people to be nicer or smarter than less attractive people?

(Now, I know people have different taste, but let's assume, for the purpose of this hypothetical situation at least, that we generally find the same people to be attractive the world over.)

Most of you might say, "Of course not. Physical beauty has little to do with traits like kindness and intelligence.

Studies show, however, that thanks to human perception, they're more entwined than we think. 

People have a tendency to judge beautiful people as sharing a variety of psychological characteristics based solely on their looks. Beautiful people are perceived not only as nicer, but more successful. 

One study in 2014 found that viewers judged an attractive person who smiled as happier than a smiling person with an unattractive face. 

It's mind-boggling to think that people would assign so many positive attributes to individuals who may not be deserving of them.

But then again, when something or someone is that pleasing to the eye, we tend to look at them through rose-colored glasses.

I suppose it's like buying a new car. When the exterior catches your attention, you may assume that all the interior features will be first-rate, but that is not always the case. 

The studies mentioned above fly in the face of some of the stereotypes we carry with us from secondary school -- like the hot but ditzy cheerleader and the mean, muscular jock. 

If we perceive all attractive people this way, then we might be tempted to characterize Ted Bundy types as nice guys, and the Kim Kardashians of the world as being rocket scientists. A scary thought indeed!

Whether the person is physically attractive or just plain average, it's important to get to know them first before ascribing qualities, whether good or bad. 

A sandwich may look delectable on the outside, but once you sink your teeth into it, you may quickly notice how stale and inedible it is.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: True beauty lies within. 

You might not consider someone physically attractive when you first meet them, but over time, their terrific character traits -- honesty, confidence, humility, intelligence, integrity -- may make them more appealing on the outside as well.

On the flip side, I don't think it's fair to assume that a person will be rude and self-centered just because they're eye candy to most. And chances are, they work really hard -- through dieting, exercise, and so forth -- to look that good. 

People should indeed reserve judgment until they meet and get to know each other. It's best not to judge a book by its cover until you know what's really inside. 

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