Should exes get back together?

Breakups can be unexpected and emotionally taxing.

But every now and then, two former partners decide it give it another shot.

The pair may very well feel that they're happier together, having realized during their time apart that their lives aren't as rich without the other person.

Perhaps they tried dating a few others beforehand but none could hold a candle to their old flame.

Friends or relatives of the two considering reuniting may advise against the move, claiming it's a train wreck waiting to happen.

Others may be a little bit more sanguine about their prospects, possibly intimating that they never felt the lovebirds should part ways.

The reason why they broke up in the first place should always be factored in.

For example, if someone cheated, can the other person really trust them? Similarly, if someone broke things off because, say, they needed space, or for undisclosed reasons, who's to say they won't do it again?

Partners have every right to guard their feelings. If deep down they sense that they should leave the relationship behind them and move on, they should listen to their instincts.

Going through with it against their gut could mean sparks will fly right out of the gate.

They may accuse each other of being "the same person" they were before, pass judgment on each other left and right, and possibly double down on their jealousies and insecurities.

Who wants to be in so chaotic a relationship? Let it go!

On the other hand, if during their time apart both people did some serious soul-searching and worked on correcting those character traits their partner perceived as flaws or bad habits/annoyances, then they definitely have a chance.

But I can't stress this enough: Both people have to be disposed toward mending the relationship or it will never get off the ground this time.

If one or both continue their selfish or cheating ways, there's no point whatsoever in getting back together. And if any wishes to reunite simply to cure feelings of loneliness, they're plunging down a rabbit hole, to be sure.

Don't force anything that doesn't feel right. Someone better may be waiting in the offing, so don't lose hope or patience!

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