In other words, the other person may have a slew of friends or several people vying for their romantic affections, making you feel as though you're just a number on their list.
This doesn't make us feel special or appreciated, no matter how many times -- and how emphatically -- they may claim to value us.
We might crave more intimacy with this individual, but their tendency to hop from one person to another may create an emotional void.
You might feel far more invested and committed because you have a smaller circle of people in your life. Perhaps you've done this deliberately in an effort to cut down on the drama and prioritize quality over quantity.
It's saddening when people take us for granted because they know they have other options.
Perhaps you've suggested a relaxing evening at home dining over a good movie, but someone else has suggested plans more to their liking.
Maybe you've hinted at wanting to take your relationship to the next level, but he or she signals that commitment is the farthest thing from their mind right now. They wish to continue dating different people.
It can be greatly dispiriting when you feel like you're competing with other people for this person's time and attention.
They may go weeks or months without returning your calls or texts, and yet they're posting pictures of recent outings they never even told you about on Facebook.
Life isn't a popularity contest, but these people fail to understand that. They're obviously drawn to breadth rather than depth when it comes to their friendships/relationships.
If you want something more substantive where the individual commits to putting you first, you may have to look elsewhere.
Some people couldn't care less about deepening their relationships. As long as they have a different person to talk or go out with every week, they're good to go.
Never settle for a friend or partner who asserts that they're committed to you, but never seems to show it. Two people can't achieve a strong, enduring bond unless they each demonstrate loyalty.
The truth is that some people don't mind maintaining superficial relationships and friendships if it means they can have more of them.
Chances are, one day they'll realize they've lost a great deal of people over the years because they failed to see their worth. Maybe then they will pare down the number of friends in their lives or actually commit to only one individual.
You deserve to allocate your time toward people who actually cherish it. The longer you remain around people who remember you exist when plans fall through with their countless other friends or dates, the more hurt and disappointed you'll be.
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