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Users: People who only care when it's convenient

How many people do you know who only appear when they're in some kind of a bind?

Here are a few examples you can probably relate to:

They broke up with their boyfriend, and now they're reaching out to you nearly every day. But while they were in their relationship, they acted as if you didn't matter.

They had a falling out with a few friends, and now they've suddenly surfaced. However, when things were peachy with their buddies, you couldn't seem to get a hold of them.

And how about those we only hear from when they need a favor? Whether it's that they need money or help moving, they seem to vanish off the face of the earth once they get what they need.

What do the three scenarios above have in common? They describe users to a tee.

If someone wants nothing to do with you when things are going well in their lives, that should make you question why they wish to maintain any kind of relationship.

Perhaps they see you as convenient to have around because you've never objected to doing them favors in the past (e.g., lending money), so they've come to expect it.

Some people aren't interested in nurturing relationships, even though they may appear to be on the outside.

They may say they don't have the time, but in many cases they're simply prioritizing other people in their lives.

However scant it may be, we make time for the things and people we prize.
When someone doesn't call or text you for months -- even after you've made repeated attempts to connect with them -- but appears without fail when they're in some sort of a pickle, they're clearly taking you for granted.

Do you want to have someone like this in your life?

They're essentially treating you like you're not all that important, and that is hurtful.

If you decide you want to salvage the relationship -- whether because of longevity or another reason -- have an honest talk.

Tell the individual you want to feel more coveted in the relationship.

Express your desire to receive calls and texts from them even on good days.

Convey that you'd appreciate if they took more of an active interest in your life.

Instead of calling only when they need something, why can't they reach out just to discuss politics, sports, or whatever other interests you share?

If it still falls on deaf ears and they once again vanish into thin air after the conversation, you may want to close the book on that relationship.

Everyone deserves to feel appreciated and valued. If one person is driven solely by self-interest, there's no reason to associate oneself with them. If you find yourself, begging for their cooperation, they're simply not worth it.
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