Never let others undervalue you

Never should we allow others to undervalue us -- nor should we let ourselves do it.

At the end of the day, the only opinion about yourself that is completely accurate -- the sole assessment that really matters -- is your own.

Self-worth, or self-esteem, results from our striving to treat ourselves with the love, care, compassion, and respect we deserve.

Your self-worth can only be determined by you because it comes from within. The higher your self-esteem, the happier you are. And as I've stressed in my other posts, happiness emanates from inside of us.

It's obvious that not everyone we come across in our lives -- from partners and friends to bosses -- will realize our worth. Still, that should never decrease our value in our own eyes.

In relationships in which we don't feel valued, we have the option to address our feelings with the other person. If that doesn't bear fruit, we must decide whether the individual deserves a place in our lives.

Now, this doesn't mean we should walk around gloating about how exceptional we are.

One can recognize their worth without letting it go to their head.

You can value yourself and remain humble at the same time. What's more, you should be open to constructive criticism -- as long as it's coming from a good place -- because it will facilitate growth.

You need no one's validation but your own to reassure you that you're a special individual with a personal toolkit of virtues, talents, skills, and passions.

You've come a long way to get to this point, and you ought to commend yourself for that.

Never allow yourself or anyone else to diminish your goals or aspirations. Embrace what makes you unique, even though others may fail to acknowledge it.

Your happiness hinges in large part on your self-esteem, Realize your value and take pride in your uniqueness! Whenever you see your self-worth starting to slip again, remind yourself of one thing:

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

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