If you feel like you're worthless to someone...

If you sense that you're worthless to someone, don't fret. Smile, because you're priceless to someone else!

To the world you may be just a tiny, insignificant speck. But to one person, you may be nothing less than the world.

Even though we might have good,
caring people in our lives, many of us become preoccupied with the ones who treat us like dirt.

We go to great lengths to rationalize why they're behaving this way, especially if we can't put a finger on what we ever did wrong.

We let their mood sour ours. We call and text them numerous times in the vain hope that they will give us the time of day.

In short. we let them get the best of us -- but why should we?

Your value doesn't decrease just because someone is unable to see your worth.

And just because someone perceives you as being of little worth doesn't mean others see you that way.

In fact, if you have friends, family, and/or a partner who count you among the most important people in their life, who cares what others have to say?

We will never live up to everyone's idea of how we should be like. Maybe one person thinks we ought to be thinner. Another might picture us in a different career. Still another may question why we don't live in a bigger house or have more kids.

Our happiness, however, should never depend on other people. Our dreams, hopes, goals, passions -- these should all derive from our own hearts and not those of others.

Some people try so desperately to win others' validation that they wind up losing their self-identity in the process. In essence, their life is a sham because they're living it to others' specifications.

If you have to try that hard to get someone to like you/acknowledge your value, you're wasting your time.

Gravitate toward the ones who accept you for who you are, appreciate all you do for them, and never waver in their loyalty to you.

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