Don't let people put you in a bad mood

How many times have you allowed someone's off-color remarks affect your mood?

Maybe it's a tasteless remark they made about your weight, or an insensitive comment regarding your job or wardrobe.

Maybe they didn't mean for their remark to come across as rude or insensitive. Or, perhaps this individual has a habit of not saying things in a tactful manner.

Whatever the circumstance, it's important not to let people get under your skin.

You never really know what's going on in people's heads.

They may very well be the type who tries to compensate for their own insecurities by pointing out others perceived shortcomings.

Whether you're dealing with an obnoxious coworker or an acquaintance who has no filter, you can't let what they said eat away at you. Let it go!

If you're not careful, you may find yourself dwelling on it for hours, inducing feelings of bitterness and tempting you to retort with a scathing remark of your own that you might later come to regret.

For some people, it doesn't take much to sabotage their day. But do you really wish to give someone such sway over your emotions?

By becoming so bent out of shape, you essentially give people the power to make you unhappy. Imagine the pleasure some people would get out of knowing they can push your buttons so easily.

Instead of suffering in silence, you can approach the individually tactfully and let them know their remark didn't sit well with you. If they're someone worth being around, they'll appreciate your candor and refrain from doing it again.

However, if they continue to behave this way, there's not much you can do but walk away and let them be. Badmouthing people in kind will only fan the flames and make you more and more resentful toward them. There's no purpose in shadowing their immaturity.

Sometimes the only way to get these inconsiderate people to stop is to ignore them altogether and go about living your life. Indeed, indifference can be a much more potent tool than anger, as it shows someone you can't be bothered to care about the crass things they say.

When you're dealing with idiots, it pays to have a thick skin and keep your emotions at bay. Never give people the satisfaction of seeing you wound up over things they've said about or to you.

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