Just because someone in your life doesn't care for you -- or disingenuously says they do, but never shows it -- doesn't mean you should forget about the special people in your life who demonstrably hold you in high esteem.As a matter of fact, it should make you more grateful for the latter than you were before.
We've all found ourselves in situations where people we care deeply about don't seem to reciprocate such feelings.
Perhaps it's a partner who wants out of the relationship, or a friend who has been taking you for granted.
We become so obsessed with trying to rationalize their motives that we may neglect the wonderful people in our lives who have been there for us when we've needed them.
In other words, we want what we can't have, and risk losing what we already have.
Let's face it. People who genuinely care for us would never put us through such hoops.
If someone treats you as disposable -- telegraphing that they have much bigger fish to fry than you -- do not stick around hoping they'll change.
Instead, save your energy for those friends, relatives, and love interests who never fail to see your worth -- the ones who view you as an enhancement to their lives much like you recognize they are one to yours (hopefully).
Let's compare people to jobs for a moment. You may perceive a certain job as being a good fit. You do everything right -- from writing thank you letters to providing killer work samples to demonstrating during the interview how you conducted extensive research on the company in advance of the meeting.
Will all of this land you the job definitively?
Of course not, much like doing all the right things on a date -- holding doors, being friendly, and so on -- will not guarantee a second one.
Never take rejection personally. Instead, bounce back from the experience by spending time with those who will quickly put you in a better mood -- the ones who ultimately are worth your time because they appreciate the value you bring to their lives.
Some people may be going through a tough stretch right now and will eventually come around, though you shouldn't hold your breath.
Or, they may just fail to realize how much brighter you make their lives. Once they awaken from their slumber, you may decide that the relationship is no longer worth trying to sustain, as your trust in them may very well be in tatters at that point.
As I've stressed previously, life isn't about what happens to you. It's about how you respond to such circumstances. Are you really going to let one person have that much power over you?
Don't let one person spoil your life, and don't let them sour your relationships with others. If you give people who care for you the cold shoulder, you're essentially shadowing the behavior of the individual you're pining for.
Do yourself a favor and cut from your life those people who consider you an option rather than a priority.
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