Why it's better to be alone than with fake people

Rather be by yourself than around fake friends? You're not alone.

Rather be alone than in a relationship with a superficial individual? Join the club.

Every coin has two sides. Similarly, many people we come across on a daily basis are unapologetically two-faced.

Here are just a few reasons why people struggle to be genuine:

They succumb to social pressure, relinquishing their individuality in the process. They think they need to be different in order to gain approval from others, even if "different" means shallow and conniving.

They're selfish. They want to get their way, and they don't care whom they have to backstab -- and in what fashion -- to do so.

They have a low self-esteem. These people firmly believe that being themselves isn't good enough, so they must resort to being deceptive and disingenuous.

That being said, never pay any mind to those who say it's better to be around fake people than it is to enjoy your own company.

Sadly, these people learn the hard way that selling out in this way leaves them feeling lonelier and more out of touch with themselves than they ever could have imagined.

Think of this way: If you abandon your beliefs and principles and essentially become someone you're not, you might not enjoy even your own company. Ironically, you thought changing would make you happy, but it does anything but.

Fake people want others to be fake like them, but never should anyone the bait. Be above these people. Make it clear that you love being yourself -- real, pure, authentic.

You are your single biggest ally. You are the only person who will always be there for you. You are unique. Why change to appease people who could disappear from your life at any given moment?

At the same time, why settle for people who pretend to like you? Why have people in your life who fake honesty, respect, and compassion?

You don't need people like this in your life. If the choice is between spending an evening by yourself or with two-faced fakes, the answer should be a no-brainer.

Comments

Unknown said…

Oh you think my Back abera because I was being Fake? I think everything But.
It started hurting after i forced myself for top Long into Something and then my Body Kind Connection Had too mich and Pulled Sonn Plug. But this I didnt know. Makes Sense though

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