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There's NO EXCUSE for cheating

We all know of someone -- whether a friend, teacher, neighbor, or acquaintance -- who has cheated on their partner. Maybe they cheated on someone you're close to, or perhaps you've cheated on a significant other yourself and have vowed never to be unfaithful again.

Unfortunately, I often find that in such cases of infidelity, the guilty party doesn't immediately take responsibility for what they did and give their partner the time and space they need to sort out their feelings.

Instead, they become defensive (if not combative), trying to come up with reasons why they should be let off the hook. When the victim asks to be left alone, the cheater may heap apology after apology, refusing to take no for an answer.

Nothing in the world could justify cheating on a partner. It is the most egregious form of betrayal one can carry out -- the ultimate breach of trust someone has placed in you.

Not surprisingly, cheaters try to dream up every excuse in the book to justify their behavior. Here is just a sampling:

  • They had too much to drink.
  • The other person came onto them and they didn't know what to do.
  • They've been stressed at work.
  • Their relationship with their partner is in shambles, so they needed an outlet of sorts.
  • The other person cheated first (or they suspect they were without having any concrete proof).
Even if your partner cheated on you, that's no excuse to turn around and stoop to their level. The best thing to do is end the relationship for good and find a partner who sincerely believes in the concept of loyalty. 

And it doesn't matter whether the cheating is physical or emotional in nature. It is still wrong. It is still inexcusable. 

Cheaters know full well what they were doing. They know they could have exercised restraint, but chose not to. 

The reason they didn't is because they're selfish and inconsiderate of their partner's feelings. Whether they fell head-over-heels for "the other man/woman" or had a drunken one night stand they wish they could undo, they should have ended their relationship before it got to that point.

However, cheaters usually want to have their cake and eat it too. They reason that if they can get away with maintaining a stable relationship while getting some on the side, then they've got the best of both worlds.

I applaud those magnanimous souls who forgive their cheating partners and even take them back. But those who refuse to give them another chance have every right to pull the plug. If there's one thing that's difficult to repair or restore once it has been damaged, it's trust. 
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