The quality women find irresistible in men is..

While there are always exceptions, women are generally drawn to men who exude self-confidence.

Some of you guys may be scratching your heads and asking, "Wait, I thought women were mostly attracted to men who are nice to them and possess resources (money, cars. etc.)?"

This, unfortunately, is a rather common misconception that has caused many men to strike out in the dating arena.

You can't expect to buy a woman's affections with compliments, flowers, and jewelry. Women can easily sense when a guy is trying to sweet-talk and spend his way into her heart (and pants).

Women are attracted to men who show interest in them, sure, but in a more measured manner.

If you tell a woman after only three dates that you love her and look forward to your wedding day, you'll do nothing but scare her off.

If, however, you maintain a little mystery about you while exhibiting self-confidence, you're sure to keep her on her toes.

Women are drawn to self-confident men because it shows they need no one's approval -- not even theirs -- to be happy with themselves.

They don't grovel at a woman's feet for validation. They display an attitude of, "If she wants me, great. If she doesn't, that's fine with me too."

Such men have too much going on in their lives to let rejection hurt their feelings. They have hobbies, friends, and other women to occupy their time.

They see women as an enhancement to an already-wonderful life. They're asking women to come along for the ride if they so desire. If they don't, that's fine because the ride is great to begin with.

That may strike you as cocky, but it isn't. A cocky man desires praise from those around him while a confident man doesn't need it.

If a guy is needy and doesn't believe in himself, why should we expect a potential partner to believe in him?

At least in the courtship stage, women -- especially those accustomed to having several guys after them at once -- appreciate a good challenge.

It doesn't mean a guy should play childish games, but that he shouldn't be an open book and lay everything bare within a day or two of meeting the woman. A little mystery goes a long way toward building anticipation and leaves her wanting more.

If you're low in self-confidence, here's a trick you can employ on your next date: Aim to discuss a subject you feel well-versed in -- whether business or 19th century literature -- and go from there.

Allow yourself the opportunity to relax and get comfortable. Remember, women are flawed human beings just as you are. Your date is likely more nervous and self-conscious than you imagine.

And be sure to give her ample time to talk about herself. Women aren't attracted to men who don't know when to shut up -- the kind who can't even let them get a word in edgewise.

In conclusion, when women realize that a man is wining and dining them to gain their approval, not only will they get turned off -- but they may just use him for his money!

The right woman will appreciate for who you are. But let's face it: Women can't help but feel taken with men who are comfortable in their own skin.

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