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Can you guess what holds many people back from fulfilling their potential and leading a happy life?

It's none other than their past.

In the worst cases, the past can be a heavy anchor that pins us down, holds us back, and impedes our growth.

People perceive their past differently, sometimes depending on how things are going for them in the present. 

If things are not that great right now, they may view their past quite favorably, always lamenting that they wish things could be as they were in the "good old days."

Then there are those who find it difficult to move past bad experiences. For example, those who went through a bad break-up might become paranoid about entering into a new relationship, turning down opportunities to go out with ostensibly promising suitors. They vow to never trust or give their heart to anyone again. 

But we can never be truly happy unless we learn to let go of the past.

The more you allow the past to paralyze or haunt you, the more the present will pass you by, essentially preventing you from soaking up new experiences and creating new memories.

We have to come to terms with reality: All we can do with the past is learn from it so that we can make the most of the present while shaping a bright future for ourselves.

Whether you're reminiscing constantly about how good things were earlier in your relationship or thinking back to all the terrible things your ex did to you, harping on the past impedes your growth.

It prevents you from relishing new experiences with your partner or taking the first steps toward getting out on the dating market again following a long hiatus. 

Don't beat yourself up over mistakes you've made. We all make them! All you can do is learn from them and move forward. 

Letting go does not mean erasing memories. It simply means you're ready to create new ones. 

Think of your past as a building block -- a chapter of your life story that will only continue to get better so long as you carry on. 

Instead of wishing you could undo bad experiences, be thankful for them -- as they made you into the stronger person you are today. And rather than getting hung up on those moments you cherish, remind yourself that there are plenty more awaiting you. 

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. 
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