Ladies: What to do if a man only wants to sleep with you

Ladies, if a man wants you only for your body, kick him to the curb!

Don't waste time and energy thinking that he'll change and that you'll be the one to facilitate it.

Such men hardly ever change. Once they're players, they're players for life.

If you give in, you only risk being used and getting your heart broken.

Realize that many men have no qualms about swooping in, getting women invested emotionally, and then flying the coop once they have set their sights on a new conquest.

Now, if you're actually looking for no-strings-attached fun -- perhaps following a rough divorce, or because you are steering clear of serious commitment at this moment -- then you can disregard the tips in this post and press on.

But if you're tired of the games and are craving a deep connection with someone worthwhile, you should cut loose men who:

Only want to meet up late at night

Never ask how your day is going

Never seem interested in your dreams and goals

Strike you as selfish and shallow

Seem reluctant to wait until you're ready to get intimate

Show no interest in meeting your family and friends

Have shown themselves to be secretive and dishonest

Luckily, for every guy out there whose MO is simply to get in a woman's pants, there's a man who genuinely craves a serious relationship.

If you meet a man who possesses these qualities, he's certainly a keeper:

Sweet and romantic

Kind and affectionate

Wants you for your mind and soul, not just your body

Respectful, honest, and loyal

Sees himself building a future with you

Stands up for himself when warranted

Again, if you come across a sleazeball who only wants to fool around, make it clear from the get-go that you're not interested. The last thing you need is someone who ropes you into a relationship under false pretenses and ends up ripping your heart to shreds.

The right man is out there. Don't lose hope. At the same time, don't just sit around waiting for an auspicious knock on the door. Go out there and expand your possibilities!

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