If it feels wrong, don't do it

If your gut tells you that you shouldn't do something, it's always best to listen to it.

Unfortunately, many people engage in a slew of behaviors despite being conscious of the fact that they can lead to serious, often-damaging consequences.

Some of these reckless acts include:

Cheating on their partner
Sleeping with someone you don't want to be intimate with
Stealing from others
Drinking more than they should
Taking illegal drugs
Becoming physically aggressive with others

Let's delve into cheating for a moment.

There is absolutely no excuse in the world that could justify such an abhorrent betrayal of a partner's trust.

And if your partner cheats on you first, it doesn't give you license to go out and do the same. It's better to be the better person and walk away before becoming involved with someone else.

Payback doesn't solve anything. If anything, it heightens feelings of bitterness and animosity.

What gets me is when people act as if they never saw it coming -- that the infidelity "just happened."

If someone cares even a smidgen about their partner's feelings, they'll at least question whether putting the relationship at risk is really worth it. Their instinct will say "don't do it; don't throw everything down the drain."

Unfortunately, though, the region between the legs often has the final say.

Sometimes the examples given above can work in concert, opening the door to a world of trouble.

For instance, someone may get drunk and cheat on his wife. When he arrives home in a drunken stupor, he may become physically hostile toward his spouse after she begins questioning where he's been.

It's at that very moment that life can quickly spiral out of control.

Doing what is right usually requires putting others' feelings before our own selfish motives.

We all have days when we let our emotions get the best of us -- those times where we say and do things we wish we could take back.

That's different from consciously knowing that doing something isn't right -- and may potentially hurt others -- and still moving forward.

Listen to your instincts. If they warn you against taking a course of action, it's probably best you not go there. If you find yourself uneasy about going down that road, let it go. You'll be glad you didn't do something that might haunt you for the rest of your life.

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