Why loving yourself is crucial to happiness

You're not perfect. But neither am I. No one is.

Give yourself credit from time to time for all you've accomplished. You've come a long way. You've overcome a slew of obstacles that life has thrown at you.

Your life may not be perfect, but keep in mind that there is no such thing as the perfect life.

If you can say that you look forward to the next day, and that each day consists of a handful of smiles and laughs coupled with special moments in the presence of people you love, you're doing far better than many out there.

Cultivate self-compassion. Don't beat yourself up over past mistakes. Learn from them and move on.

Don't blame yourself for relationships gone awry. While you may be at fault in some respects, a relationship requires that both people commit time and energy. It may be that they weren't pulling their weight like you assume they were.

There's nothing wrong with continually trying to improve ourselves by setting new goals. But it's important that every now and then we take a moment to take pride in the fact that getting to this point in itself is commendable.

You are special. You are wonderful. You have a unique set of skills, quirks, and habits that no one else in the world possesses exactly, and never should you change them for anyone but yourself.

And on days when you're feeling down, just remind yourself that you'll dig yourself out of the hole just like you have in the past. Believe in yourself and you will surely prevail.

You can't love others until you love yourself. Happiness doesn't come from others; it comes from within. Others do enhance our lives, but only we are capable of making them whole.

Your thoughts, feelings, and opinions count, so never allow anyone else to dismiss or invalidate them.

Never feel as though you're below your peers. You're just as deserving of happiness as they are. We all go to the bathroom and we all have to die. Others are flawed just as we are.

Make yourself a priority every so often. It's not selfish -- it's essential to a happy life.

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