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Don't let people do this to you

One of the biggest challenges we face is trying to be ourselves in a world that is trying to make us like everyone else.

Some people will stop at nothing to get you to think and act like them. Don't allow it!

Make it clear that you will relinquish your uniqueness for no one. Assert that you will celebrate your individuality until your last breath.

When they push you to blend in, learn to stand apart. When they goad you to compromise your values or beliefs, stand firm like a rock.

Why would anyone wish to be a replica rather than an original?

Sure, human bonding calls for a bit of compromise -- a little give and take, if you will.

But never should anyone make you feel bad for being resolute in your desire to project your most authentic self to the world.

Extroverts might try to convert you into one of them. No matter how well you fake it, though, your introverted temperament will win out because, well, it's the real you. You need solitude in order to recharge your batteries and couldn't sustain the spotlight for too long.

Similarly, others may try to turn you into smokers, drinkers, atheists, liberals, party animals, and the list goes on -- all so they can feel less insecure about the decisions they've made and positions they've taken in their own lives.

You have bigger fish to fry than validating other people's choices. You ought to feel secure in your own and never back down for anyone.

Be comfortable in your own skin. Don't buckle under pressure from others to conform. If people are too bothered by the way you are, cut them off and instead surround yourself with people who value you just the way you are.

Being unique is a good thing. Never feel as though being different from the pack is going to lead to your being ostracized. Remember, those who appreciate your real self are the ones who deserve to stay in your life.

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