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The 5 biggest dating turn-offs

We've all been on terrible dates we have etched in our memory -- ones we wish we could undo with one snap of the fingers.

When it comes to things that turn people off on dates, many people would agree that these rank pretty high on the list:

1. The person can't stop talking about themselves. They blather on about their car, job, or neighbor's cat, and you can't seem to get a word in edgewise no matter how hard you try. A person who's this self-absorbed and inconsiderate, needless to say, is not relationship material and should be weeded out.

2. They have bad manners. The first turn-off mentioned certainly falls into this camp. Beyond being a blabbermouth, the person might chew with their mouth open, look at their phone constantly, or flirt with the waiter/waitress.

3. They're argumentative. There's a fine line between putting your point across with conviction and trying to lock horns with your date just for the sake of proving you're right.

4. They seem desperate. When your date is already talking marriage, kids, or going on a trip together to a faraway island, you know something is fishy. You should never feel as though you're being pushed to do something you may not be ready to do.

5. They're dishonest. If you catch your date in a lie this early in the game, what does that say about how trustworthy they'd be in a relationship? Sure, everyone puts their best foot forward in the beginning, but to lie so soon is to communicate that you just don't care.

So if your date is overly loquacious, rude, combative, clingy, or insincere, it should raise red flags about their fitness as a long-term partner.

Comments

Unknown said…
but everytime you start Talking About the Person you are with, they notice, and you put and integrate material About them into your brain. And then when they leave, which will inevitably happen, you will have to process and eliminate everything you put in your mind by Talking About them, so ist a dumb Thing to do
Unknown said…
If i met belluci monica in a bar i d ask for marriage and do kids immediately.

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