It's okay to disconnect from people

Sometimes we need to extricate ourselves -- even if temporarily -- from others' drama and negativity.

We need to wriggle free of adversity we may be confronting at work, home, or elsewhere. Our well-being depends on it!

So how exactly can we do this?

It depends on whatever it is you like -- whatever it is that drives you.

Perhaps nothing spells relaxation like losing yourself in a good book during your lunch break before heading back to your desk.

Maybe you recharge by taking a leisurely stroll in the park after work.

You may notice that you haven't taken a vacation in almost a year and yearn to get away from it all -- whether that means sunbathing in the Caribbean, skiing in the Alps, or exploring historic attractions in Washington, D.C.

Or maybe a spa weekend that includes a rejuvenating massage or stress-melting sauna session is just what the doctor ordered.

No one says that relaxing has to carry a big price tag. For some people, putting the phone down and gazing out at the sunset for an hour is enough to help them clear their mind and restore equilibrium.

But taking the occasional breather is essential to our health. When one is overly stressed -- usually as a result of dealing with difficult people -- he or she can become physically and mentally taxed. And when we're drained, we're of little use at home and in the workplace.

Don't ever feel bad or guilty about wanting a little time for yourself, even if it means declining invitations to go out with your partner or friends.

Depending on our interests and personalities, we all have different ways of unwinding -- and some of us have a greater need for it than others.

Work rest and relaxation into your routine, even if it's only an hour each day. Your health will thank you for it.

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